Can anyone tell me where in the Bible the first excuse was made?
In the beginning, God created everything, and then he created man and woman. Then a serpent slivered onto the scene and that is when things began to change and problems started.
Read Genesis 3:11-13
11 And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?”
12 The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.”
13 Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?”
The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” (NIV)
God asked “Did you eat from that tree?” and what was Adam’s response? “The woman you gave me to be with, gave me some fruit from the tree so I ate”.
Then God asked the woman “What is this you have done?” What was Eve’s response? “It was the serpent, he deceived me, and I ate”.
One of the first things we tend to do as humans is to make excuses for any bad thing that happens. Making excuses is the easy way for us to not take responsibility for our actions. Adam and Eve refused to take responsibility way back then, which laid the groundwork for then on for excuses. To be perfectly honest, it was Adam’s fault that Eve ate from the tree. God instructed him that it was forbidden and he should have led by example. As Christians, we make excuses for the sins we commit. It is so much easier for us to lay the blame on others for our actions. Instead of looking at what we can do to improve the situation, we look for someone to blame.
Let’s look at some of the excuses we use daily:
- “I won’t get caught”
- Sometimes we do things bc we think we can get away with it (Ex. Speeding, cheating, using drugs, pre-marital sex, affairs, etc…)
- “Everybody else is doing it”
- Peer pressure is a powerful thing. At your age you struggle with this more than people at my age. You want to fit in, so you do what everyone else is doing. (Ex. Smoking, drinking alcohol, using drugs, pre-marital sex, etc…)
- “It’s not cool”
- We desire to be liked. We do not want to be rejected by others, so we do things we know is not right. We are worried about being made fun of for doing things that aren’t “cool”. (Ex. Respecting teachers/elders, working hard in school, playing or practicing hard 100% of the time, making good grades, staying out of trouble at school,)
- “I’m too busy”
- This is probably the most common for all Christians. We need to keep our priorities in focus and concentrate on what is really important. (Ex. Not Praying, not reading the Bible, not attending Church, not participating in church functions, …)
12 Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, 2 fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. (NIV)
6 God “will repay each person according to what they have done.”[a] 7 To those who by persistence in doing good seek glory, honor and immortality, he will give eternal life. 8 But for those who are self-seeking and who reject the truth and follow evil, there will be wrath and anger. 9 There will be trouble and distress for every human being who does evil: first for the Jew, then for the Gentile; 10 but glory, honor and peace for everyone who does good: first for the Jew, then for the Gentile. 11 For God does not show favoritism. (NIV)
Are you making excuses for sins in your life?
Are you making excuses for your grades?
Does making excuses help your situation at all?
Most of the trouble lies within the selfish nature of man. We have been trained to think we are always right and that someone else is to blame.
16 for though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again,
but the wicked stumble when calamity strikes.
In Proverbs we read even a righteous man falls 7 times…… and just lays there and complains in his selfish pity, right? NO!! He got up and admitted he was wrong. That is one of the toughest things to do, admit we were wrong. As an adult it is just as hard. Admitting our mistakes in life will help us develop into better people for HIS service.
So the next time you mess up, own up to your mistake. Say “I’m sorry” to whoever needs to receive those words. Our actions and words will make us “better or bitter”, which one depends on you. No one likes to be wrong, but when you are don’t make excuses, own it.
1 John 1:8-10
8 If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 10 If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word is not in us.
41 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 42 How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. (NIV)
Luke 18:9-14 (The Parable of the Pharisee and the Tax Collector)
9 To some who were confident of their own righteousness and looked down on everyone else, Jesus told this parable: 10 “Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. 11 The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other people—robbers, evildoers, adulterers—or even like this tax collector. 12 I fast twice a week and give a tenth of all I get.’
13 “But the tax collector stood at a distance. He would not even look up to heaven, but beat his breast and said, ‘God, have mercy on me, a sinner.’
14 “I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went home justified before God. For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.” (NIV)
2 then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. 3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. (NIV)
Why is it hard to say “I was wrong”?
Do you take responsibility, or do you make excuses? Why?
22 If I had not come and spoken to them, they would not be guilty of sin; but now they have no excuse for their sin. (NIV)
We can’t make excuses for our sins. If we believe in Jesus Christ and know in our hearts that He lived a sinless life and died for us on the cross, then we must hate sin as much as He did. Sin prevents us from enjoying the presence of God by living a righteous life that he desires for all of us. When we allow ourselves to do what is wrong and then try and justify it, we are giving way to sin. Instead of making excuses, we should confess our sins and ask to be forgiven so that He may shine through us.
So what is the lesson from this? The responsibility to take responsibility falls directly on you. When you go to that party or hang out with those friends, no one can make you drink, or do drugs, or participate in other things you know is wrong. You make a conscience effort to do whatever it is. When you make a mistake, you must face up to it and ask God first to forgive you and then others that you may have hurt. If you can do these two simple things, you will not fall into making excuses.
We all make poor choices at some point in our lives, but blaming our surroundings, our friends, our parents, the system, or whatever, will not make anything better or the situation better. Step Up and Step Out and do the RIGHT thing by taking responsibility. As tough as it will be, it is what God wants from us.
23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, (NIV)
1 Corinthians 10:13
13 No temptation[a] has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted[b] beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted,[c] he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. (NIV)
1 John 1:9
9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. (NIV)
Why do we find it easy to blame others for our mistakes?
In closing, I want you to think about the excuses you are making in your life right now. Are they hindering your walk with Christ? Are they hindering your witness to others? Are they hindering your relationships with your family?
Dear Heavenly Father thank You for being a God that allows us to make mistakes and still love us. Today we ask you to help us during our decision making and keep us from making excuses when we do fail. We ask these things in Your name, AMEN!!
Love and Blessings,
Coach Tim Broome
Transformed Student Ministry